I hope you can help me with a few problems that I am going through.

My nine year old son Matt is not doing good at school. Unfortunately he is hyperactive and has been diagnosed as having A.D.D. Even though he is on Ritalin, (methylphenidate) his attention span is still not good and he takes very little notice of me or his teacher. 

My fifteen year old daughter also suffered with A.D.D. and is now sexually active. She has her own style of dress and appearance and is meeting new friends that make her feel wanted. She needs to have protective sex, as I am concerned about her getting pregnant or contracting aids. My other daughter was sexually active when she was twelve and became pregnant. We had to terminate the pregnancy, because we had enough problems without trying to look after a baby. 

We believe that our children should have freedom of choice so my seventeen year old son has chosen to adopt an alternative lifestyle and lives away from home with three gay friends. As long as he is happy I guess that's all that matters. 

My twenty year old son had some emotional problems and got a little physical with his live-in girl friend. Unfortunately she overreacted and he was arrested and is now doing time in jail. He is a good lad at heart, but just needs more understanding. 

My third husband recently left, he is gone back to his second wife. My boyfriend has been real supportive and has shown me a lot of love, even though he doesn't have a job and has a problem getting and staying high and drinking quite a bit. He needs to do this because of the pain he has from a back injury that he got from working once. He wants to get a disability pension, because of being handicapped. We went line-dancing the other week and he got into a fight with a man that was hitting on me. Boy! did he beat the guy up. We celebrated that night by getting high together. My boyfriend's ex-wife is after him for alimony, but she is not entitled to it. My boyfriend says the two kids are not his. 

I am a good person at heart and I have tried to be a good wife and mother. Sometimes I think that God will get me out of this mess and take me to heaven, but I don't want to leave my friends behind. 

Please don't suggest praying, going to church or reading the bible. I have my own religion and I believe that God is "love" and will take everybody to heaven. I think those "holier than thou " religious church folk are just a bunch of hypocrites. If you can't help me, I think I'll try calling the "Psychic Network" on T. V. 

Please give me some advice. 
Winnie
 

I hope you can help me with the many mistakes that I have made. 

My nine year old son Matt is not doing good at school. Unfortunately I and my husband have failed to love and discipline him according to Proverbs 22:6., so our modern liberal society has diagnosed him as hyperactive and suffering with A.D.D. (Attention Deficit Deficiency) and have put him on Ritalin, (methylphenidate) (the more children diagnosed with A.D.D. and put on Ritalin gives the school extra funds.) Unfortunately he still does not respond when he is reasoned with, and he takes very little notice of us, or his teacher. Is it too late to start proper discipline at nine? 

We also failed to love and discipline my 15 year old daughter, so she is now fornicating. She is also tattooing and piercing her body and wants to join a street gang. The liberal educators say she should have protective sex, and if her fornicators won't wear condoms, then we need to do something to protect her against the dangers of pregnancy or contracting aids. I am considering getting her to wear a chastity belt, if there are such things available today. My other daughter started fornicating when she was twelve and became pregnant. We then made a terrible mistake of killing the baby, due to our moral decadence and selfishness in not taking responsibility for her and our sins. 

We made the mistake of giving our children the freedom of choice and now my seventeen year old son has chosen to become a sodomite and live a perverted lifestyle. He lives a way from home with three homosexuals. He argues as long as he is happy, that's all that matters. But isn't doing that which is right and moral, more important than personal happiness or sexual gratification? 

My twenty year old son has a violent, mean, nature and beat up the girl he fornicates with. Finally she reacted and called the police, he was arrested and is now doing time in jail. Doesn't he need to recognize his need, repent, and receive forgiveness from God and have a changed heart? 

My third (mistake) husband recently left, he has gone back to his second wife. My lover has been filling an emotional gap by fornicating with me and making me think that this is the answer. He is lazy and doesn't like working, so he is sponging off of me and he uses all his money on drugs and booze. When I challenge him he makes up some story about an old back injury that plays up, and the drugs and booze help to soothe the pain. He is now trying to screw the government for a imagined back injury that he supposedly got from working once. He wants to get a disability pension, because he is feigning at being handicapped. I know he is physically all right, because we went line dancing the other week and he got into a fight with a man that just looked at me. The idiot beat the poor guy up. We ended up getting high together that night to forget our bad behavior. My lover's ex-wife is after him for alimony, but he claims she is not entitled to it. He has made up some story that her two kids are not his. I think he is a liar, as well as a shiftless, lazy, alcoholic junky. Why did I get involved with him? 

I am a sinful person at heart and I have not seriously tried to be a good wife and mother. Sometimes I think that Satan will take me to hell which I'm sure is infinitely worse than what I am experiencing now. Before its too late, I need, with God's help, to read the bible, pray, find some spiritual and moral guidance from those religious folk I used to laugh at, and turn my life around, 

Am I waking up to the truth? 
Roxanne